Day 161/365: Happiness!

Day 161/365: Happiness!

June 10, 2011

Your word is your Wand
by Florence Scovel Shinn

HAPPINESS

In that wonderful moving picture, “The Thief of Bagdad,” we were told in letters of light that happiness must be earned!

It is earned through perfect control of the emotional nature.

There can be no happiness where there is fear, apprehension or dread. With perfect faith in God comes a feeling of security and happiness.

When man knows that there is an invincible power that protects him and all that he loves, and brings to him every righteous desire of the heart, he relaxes all nervous tension and is happy and satisfied.

He is undisturbed by adverse appearances, knowing that Infinite Intelligence is protecting his interests and utilizing every situation to bring his good to pass.

“I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in a desert.”

Uneasy lies the head that wears a frown. Anger, resentment, ill-will, jealousy and revenge rob man of his happiness and bring sickness, failure and poverty in their wake.

Resentment has ruined more homes than drink and killed more people than war.

For example: There was a woman who was healthy and happy and married to a man she loved.

The man died and left part of his estate to a relative. The woman was filled with resentment. She lost weight, was unable to do her work, developed gall-stones and became very ill.

A metaphysician called upon her one day. He said: “Woman, see what hate and resentment have done to you; they have caused hard stones to form in your body and only forgiveness and good-will can cure you.”

The woman saw the Truth of the statement. She became harmonious and forgiving and regained her splendid health.
AFFIRMATIONS

I am now deluged with the happiness that was planned for me in the Beginning.

My barns are full, my cup flows over with joy.

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My endless good now comes to me in endless ways.

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I have a wonderful joy in a wonderful way, and my wonderful joy has come to stay.

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Happy surprises come to me each day. “I look with wonder at that which is before me.”

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I walk boldly up to the lion on my pathway and find it is a friendly airedale.

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I am harmonious, happy, radiant; detached from the tyranny of fear.

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My happiness is built upon a rock. It is mine now and for all eternity.

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My good now flows to me in a steady unbroken, ever-increasing stream of happiness.

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My happiness is God’s affair, therefore, no one can interfere.

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As I am one with God I am now one with my heart’s desire.

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I give thanks for my permanent happiness, my permanent health, my permanent wealth, my permanent love.

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I am harmonious, happy and Divinely magnetic, and now draw to me my ships over a calm sea.

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God’s ideas for me are perfect and permanent.

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My heart’s desire is a perfect idea in Divine Mind, incorruptible and indestructible, and now comes to pass, under grace in a magical way.

Day 161/365: Happiness

Day 35/365: How to Overcome Loneliness?

Day 35/365: How to Overcome Loneliness?

Februay 4, 2011 (Friday)
T House, Tagaytay City

Feeling Lonely? Getting tired of your daily routines? Longing for someone?

There is so many reason why someone evolve in this challenging human state. It is a state when we suddenly stop and realize that there’s something or someone is missing in our life. A point of realization and first stage of acceptance. It is an emotional state where we need someone to listen and guide us. There is always hope and believe that there’s always a silverlight lining in a cloudy skies. Don’t nurture the feeling of sadness, this is already a digital age where communication highways is everywhere and within reach!

Here are some research and study on how we can surpass the feeling of loneliness:

Growth and change over the years produces a variety of feelings in people. In addition to feelings of excitement and anticipation, there may also be feelings of loneliness. Loneliness is not necessarily being alone. We may be alone for long periods without feeling at all lonely. On the other hand, we may feel lonely in a familiar setting without really understanding why. The best way to begin to understand loneliness is to examine some of the ways people experience it. You may feel lonely when:

* you’re alone and you don’t feel you have a choice not to be;
* you feel that you’re lacking attachments you had in the past;
* you are facing changes in your life–a new school, town, job, or other changes;
* you feel there’s no one in your life with whom you can share your feelings and experiences;
* your self-perceptions are that you’re unacceptable, unlovable, not worthwhile even if others don’t share those perceptions.

Misconceptions About Loneliness:

Loneliness can be made more intense by what you tell yourself it means. College students and men are particularly susceptible to the following misconceptions regarding loneliness:

* “Loneliness is a sign of weakness, or immaturity.”
* “There’s something wrong with me if I’m lonely. These should be the best years of my life.”
* “I’m the only one who feels this way.”

Day 35/365

If these misconceptions ring true to you, you may believe that loneliness results from a defect in your personality. Research suggests that people who think of loneliness as a defect tend to have the following difficulties:

* greater difficulty in taking social risks, in asserting themselves, in making phone calls to initiate social contact, in introducing themselves to others, in participating in groups, and in enjoying themselves at parties.
* less skill in self-disclosure, less responsiveness to others, and a greater tendency to approach social encounters with cynicism and mistrust.
* more likelihood of evaluating themselves and others in negative terms and more tendency to expect others to reject them.

Lonely people often report feeling depressed, angry, afraid, and misunderstood. They may become highly critical of themselves, overly sensitive or self-pitying, or they may become critical of others, blaming others for their situations.When these things happen, lonely people often begin doing things which perpetuate their loneliness. Some people, for example, become discouraged, lose their sense of desire and motivation to get involved in new situations, and isolate themselves from people and activities. Others deal with loneliness by becoming too quickly and deeply involved with people and activities without evaluating the consequences of their involvement. They may later find themselves in unsatisfying relationships or over-committed to work, academic or extracurricular activities.

What To Do About Loneliness?

The alternative to viewing loneliness as a defect or as an unalterable personality characteristic is to recognize that loneliness is something that can be changed. It is also important to know that loneliness is a common experience. According to a recent national survey, one quarter of all adults experience painful loneliness at least every few weeks, and the incidence among adolescents and college students is even higher. Loneliness is neither a permanent state nor “bad” in itself. Instead it should be viewed more accurately as a signal or indicator of important needs that are going unmet.

You, or anyone, should take action when important needs aren’t being met. Begin by identifying which needs are not being met in your specific situation. Your loneliness may result from a variety of needs. It may involve the need to develop a circle of friends or a special friend. It may involve learning to do things for yourself, without friends. Or it may involve learning to feel better or more content about yourself in general.

Developing Friendships

There are a number of ways to begin meeting your needs for friendship. Consider the following:

* Remind yourself that your loneliness will not last forever.
* In doing the things you ordinarily do in the course of your daily schedule, look for ways to get involved with people. For example, you can:
o eat with others
o sit with new people in class
o find a hobby or exercise partner
* Put yourself in new situations where you will meet people. Engage in activities in which you have genuine interest. In so doing you will be more likely to meet the kind of people you are interested in meeting,
people with whom you have something in common.
* Make use of job and campus resources. Find out about organizations and activities in your community. Examples are clubs, churches, part-time jobs, and volunteer work. Ask for ideas from someone who has
been around longer than you have.
* Work at developing your social skills. Practice getting to know others and letting them know you.
* Don’t judge new people on the basis of past relationships. Instead, try to see each person you meet from a new perspective.
* Intimate friendships usually develop gradually as people learn to share their inner feelings. Avoid rushing into intimate friendships by sharing too quickly or expecting that others will. Let the process develop
naturally.
* Value all of your friendships and their unique characteristics rather than believing that only a romantic relationship will relieve your loneliness.

Developing Yourself

Think of yourself as a total person. Don’t neglect other needs just because your companionship or friendship needs are not being met.

* Make sure you follow habits of good nutrition, regular exercise, and adequate sleep. Don’t let work, academics, hobbies, and other interests slide.
* Use your alone time to get to know yourself. Think of it as an opportunity to develop independence and to learn to take care of your own emotional needs. You can grow in important ways during time alone.
* Use your alone time to enjoy yourself rather than just existing until you will be with others. Avoid merely vegetating–deal with your situation actively. Recognize that there are many creative and enjoyable ways to
use your alone time.
* Whenever possible, use what you have enjoyed in the past to help you decide how to enjoy your alone time now.
* Keep things in your environment (such as books, puzzles or music) that you can use to enjoy in your alone time.
* Explore the possibility of doing things alone that you usually do with other people (like going to the movies).
* Don’t decide ahead of time how you’re going to feel about an activity. Keep an open mind.

In summary don’t define yourself as a lonely person. No matter how bad you feel, loneliness will diminish or even disappear when you focus attention and energy on needs you can currently meet and when you learn to develop new ways to meet your other needs. Don’t wait for your feelings to get you going–get going and good feelings will eventually catch up with you.

(Study from American Mental Health Channel)